How to forgive someone when don't even ask for forgiveness?

Everyone makes mistakes but what to do when they don't realize or care that their mistake caused you immense pain. Well, I say forgive them. 

YES, it might feel that you can never get over it but you will and can with forgiving. Forgiving them might feel challenging, almost impossible but it's not and you can forgive them as it is more about you than them.

What's in it for you?

Holding onto the pain and hurt that they caused you is what makes forgiving more important. When you forgive you find peace to heal and move on with your life. 

Three ways to forgive them, who did not ask for your forgiveness:

1. Write it down 

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No matter what, understand that you will do this for yourself even though there is no one to forgive you need to and should get it off your chest.

Put your pain, hurt and anger on a paper as if the one who caused you all this will read it. This will help you in getting a closure as this relationship won't be same as before or you will never be together. 

2. Share it all 

Forgiving is not easy especially when the one who made the mistake does not care what damage they have caused. So, in order to forgive them you can share it with the ones who care. This will not only feel good but also help you find if you successfully forgave them. 

3. Forgive yourself!

 Understand that it wasn't your deed that caused the hurt and pain or disappointment that might have come to you. You loved, care and invested in this person or relationship at a time that wasn't quite right. Learn out of this experience and move on. 

Don't blame yourself for what happened.

4. Moving on?

Now that you forgave them the feelings might still bother and it's completely fine to feel that way. 

Just remember these when you feel the pain.

• Focus on the good in your life
• Your peace and happiness are in your hands
• The lost what could have been a beautiful life time of love & care
• It's ok and things will be better
• Do what makes you happy { I would eat a cookie (◠‿◕) }
  
  

  

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